Team Coaching

Turning Conflict into Constructive Interaction

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May 18, 2023
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René Sonneveld

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"Conflict can and should be handled constructively; when it is, relationships benefit. Conflict avoidance is not the hallmark of a good relationship. On the contrary, it is a symptom of serious problems and of poor communication." – Harriet B. Braiker

Conflict, characterized as a clash of attitudes, beliefs, values, or goals between individuals or groups, is an inescapable reality in any situation involving interaction. However, it's important to note that not all conflicts should be inherently negative. While it may trigger stress or anxiety, it also possesses the capacity to stimulate new ideas, spark innovation, and improve relationships. This is sometimes referred to as constructive conflict, where tension facilitates understanding, growth, and better team dynamics.

In this article, we aim to explore how corporate teams can leverage conflict to their benefit. Additionally, we'll delve into how corporate teams can instill a culture where effective conflict resolution becomes not just a skill but a value celebrated by all members. To provide a more positive connotation, we'll try to replace the term "conflict" with "constructive interaction" throughout this article as much as possible. This shift emphasizes the opportunity for positive outcomes and productivity in these situations.

The essence of effective teamwork lies in constructive interaction between team members, underscored by a commitment to avoid criticism, defensiveness, and blame games. A team excels when it masters giving and receiving feedback, viewing conflicts not as obstacles but as opportunities for discovery, growth, and creativity.

The concept of constructive interaction in the team-effectiveness model goes beyond conflict management. It focuses on creating an environment that encourages respectful, open, and purposeful communication, ultimately leading to mutually beneficial outcomes. A prime example of this would be the team's ability to exchange high-quality feedback consistently.

However, feedback is often delayed for a "more opportune time," causing the emotional tension to amplify unnoticed. As a result, when feedback is finally presented, it usually initiates a short-fused conflict. The goal here shifts from fostering constructive interaction to managing constructive conflict.

The key question isn't about creating team conditions that eliminate or suppress conflict but effectively channeling the energy, passion, commitment, and courage that conflicts can unleash. It is about preparing the team for the inevitable turbulence of disputes.

Given the often stormy business climate, high-performing teams cannot avoid the occasional rough ride. Many teams, unfortunately, expend unnecessary energy trying to evade conflict. This aversion is understandable given the negative experiences of conflict many have had. The fear is that disagreements could escalate, lead to confrontations, derail the team's progress, and cause irreparable damage to team cohesion.

As a result, some individuals may hold back their genuine opinions to maintain peace, tip-toeing around sensitive issues. However, this "peace at any cost" approach robs the team of the potential benefits that could arise from embracing the messiness of conflict.

Disagreements and conflicts are inevitable within teams and can also be beneficial. They arise from members' care and concern about the outcomes. Indifference, on the other hand, can be detrimental to the team. Exceptional teams know how to extract energy from conflicts without causing a destructive explosion.

Constructive interaction is a team competence that allows for beneficial outcomes from challenging conversations. Teams adept at this can explore more options, make better decisions, and be more innovative. Teams that can withstand the heat of conflict emerge more robust and resilient.

"There is an immutable conflict at work in life and in business, a constant battle between peace and chaos. Neither can be mastered, but both can be influenced. How you go about that is the key to success." – Phil Knight Handling

Handling Conflict: A Step-by-Step Process

Here are some tips to help develop a systematic approach to better constructive team interaction.

Tip 1. Begin at the onset. Before becoming a raging fire, conflict often starts as a mere spark. It could be a slight irritation stemming from a simple misunderstanding, divergent expectations, or mismatched assumptions. You may have experienced this feeling - a nagging annoyance or frustration with a colleague you didn't have the time or energy to address. However, this irritation serves as a warning sign to probe the root cause. If the tension lingers, it may become a festering complaint. A potential solution to a complaint often lies in a well-placed request. The powerful question is, "What request could rectify this situation?”

Ignoring early warning signs allows conflicts to grow and gain momentum.

It's worth noting, however, that not all team conflicts follow this gradual intensification cycle. Some disputes may erupt suddenly without a clear precursor. Early detection and intervention are crucial in effectively managing and resolving team conflicts.

Tip 2. Identify the issue. Once the irritation or the early signs of conflict have been acknowledged, the next step is to identify the problem at hand. Try to understand the root cause of the conflict, which could be a misunderstanding, miscommunication, or differing expectations among team members.

Tip 3. Open up communication. An open and honest dialogue is crucial to conflict resolution. Encouraging team members to express their feelings and perspectives fosters understanding and empathy and defuses tension.

Tip 4. Seek resolution. This step involves finding a solution to the conflict that satisfies all parties through compromise or developing a new approach considering everyone's input. The challenge is to focus on the issue, not the individuals involved, and the solution should promote team cohesion and collaboration.

Tip 5. Implement and monitor the resolution to ensure it works and proactively adjust as needed.

Tip 6. Foster an environment of feedback. Once the resolution has been implemented and monitored, it's vital to encourage an environment where feedback is welcome and respected. Team members should feel comfortable voicing their concerns or ideas for improvement. This ensures that any recurring or new issues are promptly identified and addressed before they escalate into major conflicts.

Tip 7. Learn and grow. Every conflict provides a learning opportunity for the team. Reflect on the conflict and the resolution process to identify what went well and what could be improved, including the methods of communication used, the timeliness of the response, or the effectiveness of the resolution itself.

Tip 8. Reinforce positive behavior. Recognizing and rewarding positive behaviors that contribute to effective conflict resolution will reinforce these behaviors' importance and encourage them in the future.

Tip 9. Keep the channels of communication open. Regular check-ins or team meetings can help ensure everyone is on the same page and that potential conflicts are addressed early.

Tip 10. Continual improvement. Conflict management should not be a static process. Review and refine your conflict management strategies based on the experiences and lessons learned from each conflict.

Tip 11. Build Trust. Trust, the cornerstone of any successful team, is crucial for constructive interaction. Team members must feel safe to express their thoughts, ideas, and concerns without fear of reprisal. Trust will be achieved when team members believe in their colleagues' best intentions, even when disagreements arise.

Tip 12. Encourage Diversity and Inclusion to ensure all voices are heard and valued. Recognizing and appreciating your team's different backgrounds, experiences, and perspectives can lead to a richer dialogue and more innovative solutions when conflicts arise.

Tip 13. Provide Training and Development. Equip your team with the skills to manage and resolve conflicts effectively by including communication skills, negotiation techniques, or emotional intelligence training. Providing these tools empowers team members to handle disputes maturely and constructively.

Tip 14. Lead by Example. As a team leader, your actions set the tone for how conflict is handled within your team. Demonstrate how to address disagreements respectfully, listen attentively, and seek mutually beneficial solutions through your actions.

Tip 15. Review and Refine the Process. Regularly evaluate your team's conflict resolution process to ensure it remains adequate and relevant. Solicit feedback from team members and make necessary adjustments. This iterative process helps ensure that your approach to conflict management evolves with your team and continues to serve its needs effectively.

In summary, managing conflict is not a one-time task but an ongoing process. It requires continuous effort, open communication, and a commitment to learning and improvement. Handled appropriately, it can lead to growth, improved understanding, and better team dynamics. The key is to address conflict early, communicate openly, and seek fair resolutions that respect all team members' perspectives. Using some of the tips mentioned above, teams can transform conflicts from potential roadblocks into opportunities for growth and deeper understanding.

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